Saturday, February 7, 2015

Axiom 58: You're Only as Successful as Your Significant Other

"Selecting the right person for the right job is the largest part of coaching." -Phil Crosby

"Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery." -H. Jackson Brown Jr.

In Axiom 18: Birds of a Feather... I talked about the influence friends and family have on your success in life. If this Axiom I want to talk about the importance of choosing the right significant other.

One of the single most important decisions that you will ever make in life is who to marry. It is a decision that shouldn't come lightly because it will have the single greatest affect on your future happiness and success.

Look around at the marriages of the people you know. The happy people have happy marriages. They support each other. They build each other up. They help each other become a better person. The synergy of their relationship makes them more successful than if they were single.

Now look at the people that are unhappy in marriage. Their goals are different in life. They argue all the time. Their unhappiness permeates all other aspects of their life. It makes them more miserable at work. It ruins their relationships with their friends. It can cause depression, substance abuse, and health problems. Their chance of successes in life is low.

If you're with the wrong person then it doesn't matter. 

Here are just a few of the ways that a dysfunctional relationship will destroy your success: 
  • If you're excellent at managing your money your significant other will just piss it all away. 
  • If you have a specific talent then your significant other will exploit it or muffle it. 
  • If you have a great network of people then your significant other will destroy it with their jealousy.
  • If you have big goals and aspirations in life then your significant other will crush them and replace them with small minded goals.
  • If you are responsible and cautious in planning your road to success then your significant other will continually set you back with their reckless actions.
  • If you are working on becoming a becoming a better person then your significant other destroys your progress because they do not respect your time to work on things.
 All the other Axioms mean nothing if you fail at this one...